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I Need You

February 22, 2010

If you listen to the radio, receive emails or watch videos on Facebook or YouTube, you’ve probably heard that we don’t get along. You’ve probably been told that women, especially black women are jealous of each other, we back stab each other and we hate and we fight. You’ve probably been fed divisive discourse outlining the reasons why we fight. Dark skin versus light skin, thick versus thin, natural hair versus relaxed hair, married versus single…I could go on and on, but you get the point. For some reason there is a huge campaign circulating with the sole purpose of stopping women from connecting. I am not a conspiracy theorist, but I believe that there are powers that be that profit off of the dysfunction of women. An agenda exists that has reason to oppress us by separation. Come on! It’s not too hard to believe. The tactic of divide and concur is not a new one. And it makes sense to make women out to be dysfunctional and spiteful.

Women are creators. Women are powerful beings. Women at our best have the power to nurture, protect and give birth to change in the world. In the creation story God made Adam and then realized that Adam could not exist on his own. Adam needed balance and vision and a vessel to continue to create and reproduce. God did not give Adam the ability to bring forth life. He trusted you with the responsibility of life. Have you ever stopped to think about the symbolism in your creation and that fact that mankind lives on only because of you?

So why is it now that women have had to fight for the right to vote? Why is it now that women have to prove that they can hold the same positions that men have? Why is now that women earn $.75 for every dollar that men make? Why is it now that women have to prove that they are capable of holding a position in government? Why are we being painted as hateful, emotional, dysfunctional people? Is it because there are powers that know what we’re capable of if we join together?

I need you. I need the energy of my sisters? I need your inspiration. I need your experience. I need you to mentor my daughters. I need you to be an example for my girls. I need you to raise strong men. I need you to be my friend. I need you to support my efforts. I need you to teach me new recipes. I need you to encourage me through my marriage. I need you. I need you as you for me. I really don’t care how you wear your hair, if you have children, if you have a degree, if you’ve been to prison, if you’re a size 0 or a size 32. I love you. I need you to love me.

How about we try something new? Let’s send this as an email? How about we call the radio and talk about how much we love each other? How about you post this note on Facebook? How about you tweet about your love for your sisters? I have work to do ladies and I need you.

Success is Your Responsibility

February 5, 2010

Success is not your right, but your responsibility. You see your existence at this very moment is something of a privilege. I am a woman who miscarried a child. There is something about that process that demonstrates just how fragile life is. My baby was one of many that failed to be born. That child could have been you. You survived the miracle and tragedy of being birthed. There is triumph in your being here. Everyday a mother makes a choice that due to her circumstances, lack or resources or support, it is best not to introduce a child into this world. That decision was not made for you. There is honor in your being here, despite your circumstances, lack of resources or support.

You in your unique body, with your individual expression and your autonomous thought process, are a part of this big space that we call the universe. You are a piece of something. You belong to a family or a neighborhood or a community. You are a member of a state, a country and a continent. No matter what your personal feelings are about race or ethnicity there is a group of people that share similar characteristics and histories. You are a surviving member of that group. Who do you think you are not giving this life all you have? What gives you the right not to fight hard for your community? I am you and you are me. Who you become will either help me or harm me in some way. Why would you take that lightly?

Wanting the best out of life is not selfish. I want you to succeed because in succeeding you will influence me, my children and my family members. I will not tear you down because in doing so I hurt me. I threaten my own existence by not supporting yours. Do not be humble about wanting the best out of life. You owe it to us to be successful. There is a saying that a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. I need you to be all that you can be so that you can support me. Don’t be the weakest link.