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The holidays are here and now is the time that many people wake up and begin taking inventory of their year. We start to remember the promises that we’ve made to ourselves, our children or our God and many, many of us start down the lonely road of depression. Depression because we spent another year in a bad relationship or in an unhealthy environment. We’re depressed because we failed to lose the 15 – 20 lbs that we made a resolution on lose last year. We’re kicking ourselves in the behind because we have given someone else another year of our creativity, time and energy even though we said we were going to find another job. The last 45 days of the year are often the hardest days for many to face because we don’t carefully plan the other 320 days.

Let me correct a common misunderstanding. A plan is simply not a list of things that we are going to do on certain days. A plan is an explanation of who, what, when, why and how. Creating a plan for achieving a goal takes work… almost as much work as actually performing the activity. Plans have rules and restrictions. Plans hold us accountable to ourselves and others, yet plans leave room for critique, review and adequate adjustments.

It is not second nature to properly plan for transition. We are typically not taught how to be intentional in our lives. We are a culture of people who were raised off messages such as, “Go with the flow,” “Let Go and Let God,” “If it’s meant to be it will,” and there is relevance to those expressions except when used deceitfully. There is balance to everything so I remind you that yes you should, “Be still and wait on him,” but remember also that faith without works is dead. In all things there is a required action.

You must be the change in your life. You must initiate the new direction. Creating a list of resolutions at the end of each year is a pointless tradition if you are not willing to go the next step and formulate a plan to create those desires. Here is a complementary coaching session. Write down three things you want to achieve/do/or change in the next year. Now what are you willing to do to achieve/do/or change those things? Finally what actions will you perform, when, how, where and why will you do them? Spend some time with this exercise. If you need help consider a life coach. I offer phone consultations for those of you that are not in the Metro-Atlanta area.